Is there a lot of chaos, unhappiness, heartache and mental anguish in your life?  Do your co-workers continuously gossip, making it difficult to feel peaceful at work?  Are family members always complaining about each other?  Are you working two jobs to pay the household bills, but your spouse doesn’t seem to be in any hurry to get a job? Or, does your partner behave in ways that are hurtful and disrespectful, but you stay in the marriage anyway?  Is your boss a vindictive, manipulative monster, but you have not done anything to find another place to work?

Living a drama filled life is a choice...  Let that sink in for a moment.  You may not believe that your drama-filled life is a choice, but I assure you, it is.  If you are ready to make a different choice, read on.

First, you have to believe that you deserve to have a peaceful and fulfilling life.  Next, you must identify the source of drama in your life and make a commitment to reduce the chaos or get rid of it once and for all.  Now comes the tricky part… you have to determine what you are doing to keep the drama alive.  I know... that one stings a bit.

Until you are willing to take responsibility for your life, the way it is right now, you will be powerless to change it.  When you take responsibility for where you are, and you know in your heart and soul, that you have the power to choose the way you want to live your life, real change will be possible for you.  If you want the drama to end, you have to stop blaming your spouse, your parents,  your sister, your co-workers or your boss.  They are who they are and there is nothing you can do to change them.  There is, however, something you can do to change the way you respond to these people.  Another thing you can do, is reduce the amount of time you spend tuning in to their “broadcasts”.  Most important of all, you can stop waiting for other people to treat you better, and instead, take control of your own life.  That may seem like a daunting task, but as scary as it may seem, it is probably less scary that living with the chaos and uncertainty you live with now.  

The great news, is that you don’t have to make a huge change all at one time.  All you have to do, is do whatever is in front of you to do at this moment.  That step could be updating your resume.  Or, maybe your first step is to attend fewer family gatherings or keep your distance from gossiping coworkers.  The next step may mean calling a friend and getting help so you can pack and leave tonight, because you are not safe where you are.  Or, if you are stuck in your head, repeating a problem over and over and not finding any solutions, you may need outside help.  Your next step might be to talk to a coach or therapist to get a more objective viewpoint that will help you to see your options.

If you are tired of the turmoil and uncertainty in your life and if you don’t want to be a drama queen any longer, you have the power to rewrite the script.