Hello !
Many people are navigating a life transition. It might be a career change, divorce, empty nest, healing a relationship, starting a business, getting healthy, widowed, or relocating to name just a few.
When
going after a goal, it is best not to go it alone. When we try to make changes without a support person or group, we typically do not succeed. It's way too easy to let that little voice in our head talk us out of doing whatever we have written on our calendar to do. That might be sitting down to write a book, it could be going to the gym, organizing our closet... or any number of tasks.
We look at our calendar
and see we are scheduled to go to a network group meeting. "Ugh!" the little voice in our head says. "You're too tired. You haven't received any business from that group. Why waste your time? Let's stay home and do something more fun." Sound familiar? And, guess what? A high percentage of us will listen to that voice and our feelings and stay home.
Our greatest obstacle is ourselves and the
fact that we let thoughts and feelings dictate what we are going to do from day to day. Why do we never achieve what we set out to do? We don't achieve our goals, because we don't take our commitment to ourselves and our goals seriously. I can say this, because I am SO guilty of this one!
The solution? Ignore your thoughts and ignore your feelings and do the thing you put on your calendar to do.
Nothing on your calendar? Well, you know what to do about that don't you?
Here's the formula:
- Write down your goal
- Why is this goal important to you? How will this impact your life?
- How will I know I have achieved my goal?
- Write out one specific action you will take to move toward that goal
- When will you take that action? Put it on your
calendar
- Admit to yourself that this is hard and you don't want to do it.
- Do it anyway.
- Don't Quit!
If you mess up, forgive yourself and start over as soon as possible. If you have a friend who is working on a goal, you could buddy-up with him or her to offer support. It's so much better than going it alone and your chance for success goes way up.
Here's how it works: Let's say my goal is that I want to write a book.
- I write down "Write a book"
- I want to write the book to help others and give more credibility to my business
- I will know I have achieved my goal when I am holding the book or can see it as an ebook online.
- I will sit at my computer and write for 30 minutes. Even if no words come to me, I will sit at my computer.
- I will do this
Monday - Thursday at 9:00 a.m. each morning
- I know this will not be easy and I will grumble about it, it won't be fun. (Believe it or not, when we admit to ourselves that we don't want to do something, our resistance to the task actually gets lower.)
- I will write for 30 minutes Monday - Thursday at 9 a.m. whether I want to or not.
- I will not quit!
Going after our goals not typically easy or
fun. Even though we may really want what we say we want, the process might feel like army-crawling over broken glass on a bed of hot coals, but it's the only way to accomplish our goals.
You've got this!
Blessings,
